Whether you realize it or not, it's crunch time. Right now is the most important moment of your life and certain questions need to be asked and answered. If you give the right answers, you will be presented with the opportunity to turn possibility into probability—and then into reality—by unleashing the unlimited power you have been endowed with. If you are brave enough to take advantage of the opportunity, it's only a matter of time before you bring to life your own your Dynamic Destiny.
The question is are you ready and prepared for the challenge? Will you turn your back on a life of mediocrity? Will you mentally liberate yourself from past regrets and some of the ugly mistakes you've made? And, most important, will you make the personal sacrifices necessary to guarantee a lifetime of success after success after success? Surely that's a lot to chew on, but the real deal is that you will need an abundance of character, confidence and courage from this point forward to overcome the external and internal forces against you. Additionally, you will need to make some major sacrifices which may include a lot of time, a lot of money and a lot of heartache. Without the willingness to sacrifice there's absolutely no other way to succeed and realize your full potential.
As a general and pervasive rule, in this world you have to give something to get something. It’s a fact and one of many universal laws that must be accepted before you read any further. I didn't make up the rule and I don't know who did—nor do I care—it's just the way the game of success is played. So, if you're ready, willing and able to move onward and upward, this book was conceived and written to help you unleash the power within so you may live a successful life. The only way to do that is to be able to deliver when everything is on the line—and it is. It's crunch time!
There’s a story about the legendary Sugar Ray Robinson, the greatest pound-for-pound fighter of all time. He had superlative technique and prowess, matched with unbelievable power and grace. He had lightening quick speed and uncanny timing, combined with flair and charisma. He had it all—he was the complete package—and, to top it off, he was a handsome devil. He could have jumped out of the boxing ring and become a movie star. But, lucky for us, we were blessed to see him do his thing and work wonders in the boxing ring. If you were instructed to build the perfect prize fighter, from the ground up, undoubtedly the result would be Sugar Ray Robinson.
As fluid and rhythmic as he was in the heat of battle, Sugar was having a lackluster, ugly day in the ring during a training camp session in preparation for another big prize fight. Under normal circumstances he had knock out power in both hands, but for some reason he just didn't have that pop in his punch. As his trainer watched him pitifully go through the motions, he became more and more frustrated and incensed. Finally his trainer couldn't take it anymore and he snapped. He jumped up, yanked Sugar out of the ring and dragged him into the far corner of the gym. Then he whispered something in Sugar's ear which no one else heard. To this day no one knows what was said, but whatever Sugar heard inspired and motivated him. His trainer knew exactly which buttons to press to turn him on so Sugar could unleash the power within. Who knows, his trainer may have even chastised and irritated him, but the bottom line is Sugar jumped back into the ring and he was on fire. He was able to turn it all around when he needed to. Instead of laying back and hesitating, Sugar started to take the initiative, create and make things happen. The pop was back in his punch and, once again, he was as sweet as sugar. That's why, when we talk about Sugar Ray Robinson, we talk about a legend.
As you're reading let's pretend you are Sugar Ray Robinson or whoever your model of excellence is. You can be Bill Gates, Barack Obama, Barbara Walters, Warren Buffet, Beyoncé, the Dalai Lama, Superman—or you can just be yourself. One goal of this book is to be your coach so that lifeless pages will vivify and whisper sweet nothings of inspiration and success in your ear. Be prepared, because it's very likely you'll hear exactly what you need to hear, to turn you on, so you may do battle in the ring of life. Instead of being concerned about being knocked out, you'll have the fire and passion to create and make things happen. Forget about laying back and hesitating—those days are over! There's no earthly reason why you can't catch fire, just like Sugar Ray. You may not be a world champion prize fighter, but you can be a champion—as sweet as Sugar—in your own sweet way.
There's nothing more excruciating than sitting on the runway of life and waiting. You're fueled up and ready to go, but something is stopping you dead in your tracks. Right now you're getting a green light, directly from Air Traffic Control, that now is the time to take off and fly high in the friendly sky. The clock is ticking and there's no more time to waste. It's your time to soar. However, you must do one simple thing. Most people have closed minds and hardened attitudes, but let that not be you. You must open your mind like a flower when the sun comes up and soak in all the information in these pages, without bias. The key is to be receptive to unlimited possibility and the probability is that everything will fall into place and you will be able to create your own Dynamic Destiny.
The Dynamic Destiny Principle is the foundation of How to Unleash the Power Within and we need to dig into it just a bit and come to a meeting of the minds. However, before we do so, there's one crucial fact you need to recognize which is you are a winner. We may never have met personally and we may never meet at all, but it's crystal clear that you are a winner. How can that be? Because, whether you realize it or not, you're investing valuable time and energy into picking up this book and letting the information pour into your mind. At this point you're completely focused with the expectation of digesting mental nourishment so you can continue, like cream, to rise to the top. Purely, because of your commitment, just face the fact that you are a winner!
Very few can do what you're doing, at this exact moment, which is focus and digest. Some people have the ability and some people don't—and the people who've got it know how to listen and learn. They use their eyes and ears more than their mouths. They don't spout out useless information that doesn't make any sense. They absorb information like a sponge and they have an insatiable appetite for knowledge. And most important, they use the information and knowledge they soak up to become proactive instead of reactive, which makes all the difference in the world. Consequently they're able to catapult themselves into the top 5% of personal achievement.
Maybe you have always felt that you have something magnificent and powerful inside, dying to come out, although you may not even know what it is. You know that you have a gift, but maybe you haven't been able to bring it to full bloom. Consequently you’ve been relentlessly driven to search, question, think, dream and create. It’s a beautiful thing that only those in the top 5% can and will do. So if you simply keep on doing what you're doing, sooner or later unimaginable opportunities will certainly open up for you. It's purely a matter of time.
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Do You Have A Gift?
A while ago I was looking at a movie starring Morgan Freeman and his character said something quite interesting about using your gift. To paraphrase he said you may never find your gift, but that doesn't mean you can't be great at something. I've always felt everyone has a gift, but is that true? And, if it's true, is it easier to find a needle in a haystack?
Then the baddest entertainer ever, MJ, passes away and I started rethinking the whole gift thing. MJ found his gift early--he probably came out of the womb singing--and he was GREAT, if not LEGENDARY, by age 10. The Jackson 5 was the first of the Motown groups to have four number one hits in one year back in '69. Then he goes on to sell God knows how many copies of Thriller. MJ was one of those lucky few who found his gift right from the start!
Tiger Woods is another rare bird. As a kid he watched his father swinging a golf club and by age 2 he was on TV showing off. As a teenager he wins the U.S. Junior National Championship three years in a row--then the U.S. Amateur tournament three years in a row--now he's on the verge of being the greatest golfer ever. What a life!
Getting back to Morgan Freeman, you may never find your gift, but can you develop a skill which can take you to unprecendented heights of personal achievement? I know you can. Personally, I think I've found my gift and I feel fortunate enough to have uncoverd it at 40-plus years of age. I wish I got it right out of the womb--oh well, stuff happens! I love to write, I love public speaking and I've always felt there was something different, unique and/or intriguing about how I view life, love and the pursuit of happiness. My mission is to share my views so all of us can be a little more successful. I didn't have this mission from the very beginning, but I guess you don't see too many writers or public speakers getting down at age 2 or 3 either.
Then, on the other hand, maybe I'm totally off base. Maybe writing or public speaking isn't really my gift at all. Maybe it's just a developed skill. Maybe I'm much better suited to be the GREATEST IN THE WORLD at something altogether different. Whatever that something altogether different may be I'm completely oblivious to it at this point in time, so I'll just keep on doin' what I'm doin'--while enjoying the process and the reward!
So there are two missions I have for you. First, just be doggone good at something! Use your gift or nurture a skill, whatever you gotta do. There's no doubt the Creator gave you something to work with, so please don't waste it and wander around aimlessly lamenting the day you were born. It doesn't matter what that something is as long as it's legal, moral and ya ain't hurtin' nobody. It may be physical or it may be mental, but whatever it is, just Do It 'Til You're Satisfied (BT Express was da bomb!)
Second, let's help our kids find their gifts or develop their skills, preferably at an early age. Wouldn't it be oh, so cool to uncover your kid's gift at age 2 or 3? Something that your kid loves to do and all you have to do is point him or her in the right direction? Imagine how many problems you may circumvent. Imagine how much joy he or she could spread. And who knows, if the stars line up correctly, maybe he or she will be the GREATEST IN THE WORLD at something! At the very least maybe you'll get a college scholarship out of it! But, the most important task would be to keep your kid grounded spiritually. That's a tough one, so we'll save that for our next discussion. But, for right now, let's make it happen!
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2009. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Then the baddest entertainer ever, MJ, passes away and I started rethinking the whole gift thing. MJ found his gift early--he probably came out of the womb singing--and he was GREAT, if not LEGENDARY, by age 10. The Jackson 5 was the first of the Motown groups to have four number one hits in one year back in '69. Then he goes on to sell God knows how many copies of Thriller. MJ was one of those lucky few who found his gift right from the start!
Tiger Woods is another rare bird. As a kid he watched his father swinging a golf club and by age 2 he was on TV showing off. As a teenager he wins the U.S. Junior National Championship three years in a row--then the U.S. Amateur tournament three years in a row--now he's on the verge of being the greatest golfer ever. What a life!
Getting back to Morgan Freeman, you may never find your gift, but can you develop a skill which can take you to unprecendented heights of personal achievement? I know you can. Personally, I think I've found my gift and I feel fortunate enough to have uncoverd it at 40-plus years of age. I wish I got it right out of the womb--oh well, stuff happens! I love to write, I love public speaking and I've always felt there was something different, unique and/or intriguing about how I view life, love and the pursuit of happiness. My mission is to share my views so all of us can be a little more successful. I didn't have this mission from the very beginning, but I guess you don't see too many writers or public speakers getting down at age 2 or 3 either.
Then, on the other hand, maybe I'm totally off base. Maybe writing or public speaking isn't really my gift at all. Maybe it's just a developed skill. Maybe I'm much better suited to be the GREATEST IN THE WORLD at something altogether different. Whatever that something altogether different may be I'm completely oblivious to it at this point in time, so I'll just keep on doin' what I'm doin'--while enjoying the process and the reward!
So there are two missions I have for you. First, just be doggone good at something! Use your gift or nurture a skill, whatever you gotta do. There's no doubt the Creator gave you something to work with, so please don't waste it and wander around aimlessly lamenting the day you were born. It doesn't matter what that something is as long as it's legal, moral and ya ain't hurtin' nobody. It may be physical or it may be mental, but whatever it is, just Do It 'Til You're Satisfied (BT Express was da bomb!)
Second, let's help our kids find their gifts or develop their skills, preferably at an early age. Wouldn't it be oh, so cool to uncover your kid's gift at age 2 or 3? Something that your kid loves to do and all you have to do is point him or her in the right direction? Imagine how many problems you may circumvent. Imagine how much joy he or she could spread. And who knows, if the stars line up correctly, maybe he or she will be the GREATEST IN THE WORLD at something! At the very least maybe you'll get a college scholarship out of it! But, the most important task would be to keep your kid grounded spiritually. That's a tough one, so we'll save that for our next discussion. But, for right now, let's make it happen!
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2009. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Monday, July 6, 2009
GET TOUGH!
Ignited by my zeal for peak performance physical conditioning, I dashed out of my front door one sweltering summer afternoon. It was so brutal that day you could have fried a pork chop on the sidewalk. Don't ask me why, but for some reason I felt a good, hard run would be the best thing for me. But, before I could take the first stride from my air conditioned home into the blistering summer sun, my next door neighbor—who was grossly out of shape and at least 75 pounds over-weight—gave me "that" stare. As always, she thought I was a lunatic.
Most people who see me running wonder what in the world am I training for? I'm not a professional athlete with a multi-million dollar contract, nor am I prepping for the Olympic Games and I'm not a spokesman for Nike. To tell the truth, there's absolutely nothing to gain by putting myself through abject, physical punishment when I could be kicking back in the shade on my deck, sipping iced tea and listening to Michael Franks—or is there something to gain, which only a few can detect? I run in upper ninety degree, hazy, hot and humid whether. I also run when it's bitter cold, as the winter chill does everything possible to break off my extremities. These crazy things I do are for one simple reason—so I can stay in the game and compete at "my" highest level!
What's the game? The Game of Life with its bumps, grinds and multitudinous challenges! I once heard Zig Ziglar say something that will forever echo through the chambers of my mind—if you're easy on yourself, life won't be easy on you; but, if you're tough on yourself, life won't be tough on you. Be tough on yourself and live an easy life, that's the quest. Therefore, I intentionally put myself in tough situations—what I call "pressure cooker" moments—when nothing is on the line. That's why I'm out in the so-called hazardous elements when most don't dare to. Trust me, I'm not a fanatic trying to prove something to those who do not share my passion. It's simply that I've faced tough times and I have learned that it takes physical and mental power and prowess to overcome them. My belief is that preparation, when nothing is at stake, is vital. Then, when everything is on the line and you're beset by trials and tribulations you could never have imagined, you won't have a mental or physical meltdown under pressure. You'll be able to push yourself and perform at your highest level, whatever that level may be, all because you prepared long ago when everyone thought your were psychotic.
To keep it real there's no intent to be negative by preparing for tough times—or maybe even disaster—but odds are you'll definitely face situations that may be career threatening or even life threatening. It's part of life and you just have to gut your way through them. The real deal is how you handle those testy moments will define your character and determine your destiny. By always keeping yourself in game time condition, you can cut through the tough times like a hot knife through butter. When you need to draw upon that extra burst of energy, you'll have something in reserve tank to draw upon. If you're under extreme pressure, you may bend, but you won't break. That's what it's all about.
Therefore it's best to be tough on yourself and the first step to toughen up is to be honest with yourself. You must be able to look in the mirror and tell the truth to the person staring back at you. Whoever said the truth will set you free wasn't lying. But the truth that will set us free is often the truth we don't want to face. You, as a Peak Performer, must desire to hear the truth that may hurt you. You must stand in the light that may burn you. You must be able to admit, to yourself, your shortcomings, without fearing the pain associated with the admission. I remember a friend told me something about myself that hurt me years ago—and I was cut pretty deep that day. It was the truth, the whole truth and nuthin' but the truth, and it was painful. But, after the pain subsided, the truth liberated me from some personal problems I was having. The truth is simply a bitter pill that we all have to swallow sometimes.
The next step to toughen up is to not let the truth that may hurt you devastate you. If you're not careful devastation can destroy your self-esteem. After you've faced and admitted the truth you may feel badly about it, but don't beat up on yourself. Don't think you're a lowly loser, wallowing in the gutter. Just accept the fact that you're not perfect and there's room for improvement. You're one of the Creator's beautiful creatures and nothing less. You've been blessed with the opportunity to be here, so why not make the best of it. The beauty of life is that we can make amends and overcome our shortcomings. If you feel devastated, broken down and bummed out, simply take responsibility for what has gone wrong in your life. If you're responsible and you don’t blame anyone, then you can take control and do what is necessary to get back on track.
So now is the time to get tough. It's not too late and it's the only way to attain and sustain the peak performance status you deserve. Delusions, half-truths, untruths and outright lies will only keep you chained to a post and break your spirit. But now you know what do to be free! It's your life, just do what you have to do and get tough.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2002. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Most people who see me running wonder what in the world am I training for? I'm not a professional athlete with a multi-million dollar contract, nor am I prepping for the Olympic Games and I'm not a spokesman for Nike. To tell the truth, there's absolutely nothing to gain by putting myself through abject, physical punishment when I could be kicking back in the shade on my deck, sipping iced tea and listening to Michael Franks—or is there something to gain, which only a few can detect? I run in upper ninety degree, hazy, hot and humid whether. I also run when it's bitter cold, as the winter chill does everything possible to break off my extremities. These crazy things I do are for one simple reason—so I can stay in the game and compete at "my" highest level!
What's the game? The Game of Life with its bumps, grinds and multitudinous challenges! I once heard Zig Ziglar say something that will forever echo through the chambers of my mind—if you're easy on yourself, life won't be easy on you; but, if you're tough on yourself, life won't be tough on you. Be tough on yourself and live an easy life, that's the quest. Therefore, I intentionally put myself in tough situations—what I call "pressure cooker" moments—when nothing is on the line. That's why I'm out in the so-called hazardous elements when most don't dare to. Trust me, I'm not a fanatic trying to prove something to those who do not share my passion. It's simply that I've faced tough times and I have learned that it takes physical and mental power and prowess to overcome them. My belief is that preparation, when nothing is at stake, is vital. Then, when everything is on the line and you're beset by trials and tribulations you could never have imagined, you won't have a mental or physical meltdown under pressure. You'll be able to push yourself and perform at your highest level, whatever that level may be, all because you prepared long ago when everyone thought your were psychotic.
To keep it real there's no intent to be negative by preparing for tough times—or maybe even disaster—but odds are you'll definitely face situations that may be career threatening or even life threatening. It's part of life and you just have to gut your way through them. The real deal is how you handle those testy moments will define your character and determine your destiny. By always keeping yourself in game time condition, you can cut through the tough times like a hot knife through butter. When you need to draw upon that extra burst of energy, you'll have something in reserve tank to draw upon. If you're under extreme pressure, you may bend, but you won't break. That's what it's all about.
Therefore it's best to be tough on yourself and the first step to toughen up is to be honest with yourself. You must be able to look in the mirror and tell the truth to the person staring back at you. Whoever said the truth will set you free wasn't lying. But the truth that will set us free is often the truth we don't want to face. You, as a Peak Performer, must desire to hear the truth that may hurt you. You must stand in the light that may burn you. You must be able to admit, to yourself, your shortcomings, without fearing the pain associated with the admission. I remember a friend told me something about myself that hurt me years ago—and I was cut pretty deep that day. It was the truth, the whole truth and nuthin' but the truth, and it was painful. But, after the pain subsided, the truth liberated me from some personal problems I was having. The truth is simply a bitter pill that we all have to swallow sometimes.
The next step to toughen up is to not let the truth that may hurt you devastate you. If you're not careful devastation can destroy your self-esteem. After you've faced and admitted the truth you may feel badly about it, but don't beat up on yourself. Don't think you're a lowly loser, wallowing in the gutter. Just accept the fact that you're not perfect and there's room for improvement. You're one of the Creator's beautiful creatures and nothing less. You've been blessed with the opportunity to be here, so why not make the best of it. The beauty of life is that we can make amends and overcome our shortcomings. If you feel devastated, broken down and bummed out, simply take responsibility for what has gone wrong in your life. If you're responsible and you don’t blame anyone, then you can take control and do what is necessary to get back on track.
So now is the time to get tough. It's not too late and it's the only way to attain and sustain the peak performance status you deserve. Delusions, half-truths, untruths and outright lies will only keep you chained to a post and break your spirit. But now you know what do to be free! It's your life, just do what you have to do and get tough.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2002. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Friday, June 19, 2009
Six Honest Serving Men
Originally published in 2005.
If you’re lucky there was a moment in your life when a light bulb turned on in your mind and the light made it clear for you to see your life for what it was, what it is and what it will be. If you’re really lucky this moment happened at a very early stage in your life. Unfortunately the light bulb doesn’t turn on for everyone. For some of us there’s no light bulb to turn on and consequently we stumble around in darkness. Sure, without the light you can live from day-to-day, maybe even thriving in some senses, but without the light there’s probably a whole lot of unnecessary stress and strain which tarnishes everything you do.
Over years of studying what it takes to move in the right direction, I've found there may be ways to turn the light bulb on yourself, instead of it happening as a happy coincidence. One technique I've developed is based on a few lines from the poem "The Elephant's Child" by Rudyard Kipling. So it goes…
I keep six honest serving-men; They taught me all I knew; Their names are What and Why and When And How and Where and Who.
The key appears to be to have a child-like curiousity and ask questions. The serving-men Kipling spoke of will make the questions come to life and the answers you come up with may possibly turn the light bulb on in your mind.
The first question to ask: Who am I? Of course, in the spiritual sense, you're a blessed child of god, but for now let's focus on your life goals and aspirations—which you do have, don't you? Maybe you work in a particular field which you don't find fulfilling—it's just not the real you. You may be going through the motions, but there's no passion. On the other hand, maybe if you gave them a chance, your goals and aspirations would ignite a fire in you and take you in a much more exciting direction. That direction may be the real you. Therefore you must define yourself and not let the world dictate who you are. You may be working as an administrative assistant, but are you really an artist, a mathematician, an auto mechanic, a business owner? You may not be able to quit your day job, but don't let it stop you from pursuing the real you in your spare time. And beyond defining yourself, maybe you must re-invent yourself to live your dreams. The key to being who you truly are is to focus on your strengths and what excites you, then let your self-transformation begin.
The second question to ask: What am I doing? For extended periods of your life you may be engaged in self-defeating activities and not be aware of it. Many of us can't break out of the delusional world we live in, regardless of how dire our circumstances may be or what the warning signs are. We can be warned and chided by friends and family, but for some reason it may not sink in that we're actually digging a deeper and deeper pit hole to climb out of, if we're able to climb out of it at all. Is what you're doing helping you to survive or making you thrive? Or, is it killing you? You've got to be honest with yourself and answer the question. And if you can't figure it out, find someone who can. Get an objective set of eyes to take a peek into you what's going on and you may be amazed and the feedback you get.
The third question to ask: Why am I doing what I'm doing? Maybe you're spinning in circles, doing all the wrong things for all the wrong reasons as if you're on a vicious merry-go-round—and you may not even be aware of it. Oftentimes your reasoning can be blindsided by out of control emotions and the reason why gets blurred. Toxic relationships, anxiety, destitution, moral corruption and a whole list of things can take advantage of you when you're weak and seduce you into doing things for the wrong reasons. Love, desire and ambition are powerful emotions, but they can lift you up or tear you apart. To put your mind at ease, the key to "why" questions is to make sure everyone benefits from what you're doing, and make sure everyone includes you. Selflessness is not always a noble task. Always make sure that your best interest is in the mix.
The fourth question to ask: Where am I going? Your activities and desires, consciously or subconsciously, are taking you to a certain destination. Is that destination where you ultimately want to be? The direction in which you're traveling is extremely importance because you build momentum and force as you move along—and the faster you're moving the harder it is to change direction. If you're running a hundred yard dash it's impossible to stop on a dime and make a sudden turn, so where you're going and the speed at which you're traveling could make or break you. Or maybe you're taking a slow ride, not even aware that you're moving. Be careful because you could be floating down a river and all of a sudden you hear the roar of a waterfall growing louder and louder. The question is can you paddle safely to the riverbank or are you doomed for disaster? If you're lucky maybe you're floating to an island paradise, but for some reason it doesn't always work like that. Keeping that in mind, it's always best to know exactly what road you're on so you can reach a destination of your choosing.
Fifth: When am I going to get started? Most of us are stuck in neutral simply because we're scared to change gears and move forward. We're always allowing self-imposed limitations and procrastination to keep us stuck in the mud. The bottom line is now is the time to get started. Not tomorrow, not next week or next year, but right now. If something is holding you back, what is it? Or are you allowing something to hold you back? You may be delaying your dreams and maybe you don't know it. Your success can be right around the corner, but you're dilly-dallying around with Joe, Bob and Tyrone wishing and hoping for success. Well, your success will continue to be in purgatory until you decide to do something about it and take action on your commitment. Whatever it is stopping you from making a decision which is in your own best interest needs to be thoroughly destroyed—and it's normally some type of fear. It can be fear of failure or fear of success, but it doesn't really make a difference. The only thing that will make a difference is for you to take action now.
Sixth: How will I make things happen? I think this is the most powerful question. Ironically the beauty of the "how" question is the answer may be "I don't know." In my opinion "I don't know" is the most powerful answer because when you don't know you start searching. Many people, due to a toxic mixture of ignorance and arrogance, think they know much more than they actually do and they stop searching and growing. There was a gentleman who once said, "It's not what you don't know that gets you into trouble, it's what you know that ain't so." Be careful of what you know and what you think you know. It could make all the difference in the world. Ironically the older and wiser you get, the more you find out how little you know about life, love and the pursuit of happiness. For some reason no one has been able to figure out why that is the case, but it is reality. So, don't let lack of information or a clear cut plan stop you. Sometimes you have to figure things out as you go along. You may be trailblazing new territory and trial and error may be how you're going to get the job done.
So, who, what, why, where, when and how? Now that you know the questions to ask, the ball is in your court. Put your mental power to work and start coming up with some answers.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2005. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
If you’re lucky there was a moment in your life when a light bulb turned on in your mind and the light made it clear for you to see your life for what it was, what it is and what it will be. If you’re really lucky this moment happened at a very early stage in your life. Unfortunately the light bulb doesn’t turn on for everyone. For some of us there’s no light bulb to turn on and consequently we stumble around in darkness. Sure, without the light you can live from day-to-day, maybe even thriving in some senses, but without the light there’s probably a whole lot of unnecessary stress and strain which tarnishes everything you do.
Over years of studying what it takes to move in the right direction, I've found there may be ways to turn the light bulb on yourself, instead of it happening as a happy coincidence. One technique I've developed is based on a few lines from the poem "The Elephant's Child" by Rudyard Kipling. So it goes…
I keep six honest serving-men; They taught me all I knew; Their names are What and Why and When And How and Where and Who.
The key appears to be to have a child-like curiousity and ask questions. The serving-men Kipling spoke of will make the questions come to life and the answers you come up with may possibly turn the light bulb on in your mind.
The first question to ask: Who am I? Of course, in the spiritual sense, you're a blessed child of god, but for now let's focus on your life goals and aspirations—which you do have, don't you? Maybe you work in a particular field which you don't find fulfilling—it's just not the real you. You may be going through the motions, but there's no passion. On the other hand, maybe if you gave them a chance, your goals and aspirations would ignite a fire in you and take you in a much more exciting direction. That direction may be the real you. Therefore you must define yourself and not let the world dictate who you are. You may be working as an administrative assistant, but are you really an artist, a mathematician, an auto mechanic, a business owner? You may not be able to quit your day job, but don't let it stop you from pursuing the real you in your spare time. And beyond defining yourself, maybe you must re-invent yourself to live your dreams. The key to being who you truly are is to focus on your strengths and what excites you, then let your self-transformation begin.
The second question to ask: What am I doing? For extended periods of your life you may be engaged in self-defeating activities and not be aware of it. Many of us can't break out of the delusional world we live in, regardless of how dire our circumstances may be or what the warning signs are. We can be warned and chided by friends and family, but for some reason it may not sink in that we're actually digging a deeper and deeper pit hole to climb out of, if we're able to climb out of it at all. Is what you're doing helping you to survive or making you thrive? Or, is it killing you? You've got to be honest with yourself and answer the question. And if you can't figure it out, find someone who can. Get an objective set of eyes to take a peek into you what's going on and you may be amazed and the feedback you get.
The third question to ask: Why am I doing what I'm doing? Maybe you're spinning in circles, doing all the wrong things for all the wrong reasons as if you're on a vicious merry-go-round—and you may not even be aware of it. Oftentimes your reasoning can be blindsided by out of control emotions and the reason why gets blurred. Toxic relationships, anxiety, destitution, moral corruption and a whole list of things can take advantage of you when you're weak and seduce you into doing things for the wrong reasons. Love, desire and ambition are powerful emotions, but they can lift you up or tear you apart. To put your mind at ease, the key to "why" questions is to make sure everyone benefits from what you're doing, and make sure everyone includes you. Selflessness is not always a noble task. Always make sure that your best interest is in the mix.
The fourth question to ask: Where am I going? Your activities and desires, consciously or subconsciously, are taking you to a certain destination. Is that destination where you ultimately want to be? The direction in which you're traveling is extremely importance because you build momentum and force as you move along—and the faster you're moving the harder it is to change direction. If you're running a hundred yard dash it's impossible to stop on a dime and make a sudden turn, so where you're going and the speed at which you're traveling could make or break you. Or maybe you're taking a slow ride, not even aware that you're moving. Be careful because you could be floating down a river and all of a sudden you hear the roar of a waterfall growing louder and louder. The question is can you paddle safely to the riverbank or are you doomed for disaster? If you're lucky maybe you're floating to an island paradise, but for some reason it doesn't always work like that. Keeping that in mind, it's always best to know exactly what road you're on so you can reach a destination of your choosing.
Fifth: When am I going to get started? Most of us are stuck in neutral simply because we're scared to change gears and move forward. We're always allowing self-imposed limitations and procrastination to keep us stuck in the mud. The bottom line is now is the time to get started. Not tomorrow, not next week or next year, but right now. If something is holding you back, what is it? Or are you allowing something to hold you back? You may be delaying your dreams and maybe you don't know it. Your success can be right around the corner, but you're dilly-dallying around with Joe, Bob and Tyrone wishing and hoping for success. Well, your success will continue to be in purgatory until you decide to do something about it and take action on your commitment. Whatever it is stopping you from making a decision which is in your own best interest needs to be thoroughly destroyed—and it's normally some type of fear. It can be fear of failure or fear of success, but it doesn't really make a difference. The only thing that will make a difference is for you to take action now.
Sixth: How will I make things happen? I think this is the most powerful question. Ironically the beauty of the "how" question is the answer may be "I don't know." In my opinion "I don't know" is the most powerful answer because when you don't know you start searching. Many people, due to a toxic mixture of ignorance and arrogance, think they know much more than they actually do and they stop searching and growing. There was a gentleman who once said, "It's not what you don't know that gets you into trouble, it's what you know that ain't so." Be careful of what you know and what you think you know. It could make all the difference in the world. Ironically the older and wiser you get, the more you find out how little you know about life, love and the pursuit of happiness. For some reason no one has been able to figure out why that is the case, but it is reality. So, don't let lack of information or a clear cut plan stop you. Sometimes you have to figure things out as you go along. You may be trailblazing new territory and trial and error may be how you're going to get the job done.
So, who, what, why, where, when and how? Now that you know the questions to ask, the ball is in your court. Put your mental power to work and start coming up with some answers.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2005. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
PLAY THE HAND YOU'RE DEALT
Originally published in 2004.
Staring at my five cards, I evaluated the strengths and weaknesses of my hand. I had to make the daring decision of whether to stay in the game or take my losses and bail out. How I wished I could throw away my weak cards and pick up a couple of aces. Five Card Stud is a tough poker game and I had no choice—I had to play the hand I was dealt.
Then, suddenly, after the game was done and I suffered heavy losses, I was struck by a flash. With crystal clear acuity I could visualize my own personal strengths and weaknesses, just like I could see the strengths and weaknesses in my poker hand. It was as if my entire life was sprinting through my mind at warp speed and all of my triumphs and failures were put on display for harsh and bitter critique. My personality traits that lead to those triumphs and failures were like the cards in my hand—good, bad and ugly—and sadly there was more ugly to report than anything else. It was no wonder I suffered through so much frustration. I had a weak hand—or better yet, a weak attitude.
Two of my "personality" cards were extremely weak. At the top of the hit list was disorganization, which fed directly into the chaos in my life. It became crystal clear that I had to get organized to operate efficiently, there was no other choice. But, my stinkin' thinkin' was that since I was born disorganized I was cursed forever. I figured I may never be able to break free from the throes of it. Then I thought why try to overcome it? I’ll never be perfect. My solution was to work through it by doing one clever thing: simply put a mechanism in place to guide me in the right direction and keep me focused. By doing that all I had to do was be disciplined enough to maintain the mechanism. It was really just a different way to frame the problem and solve it. You don't have to overcome all of your shortcomings, you just have to know how to work around them.
My other weak card was lack of total belief. This became blindingly obvious because I always worried. I was never able to relax. I also lacked the courage to let go of certain security blankets which weighed me down, thwarting many of my efforts and deteriorating much energy to go after the bigger fish. A friend once told me don’t let the little money get in the way of the big money. Sometimes you have to let go, take the dare and let the spirit be your guiding light. And also, if you cling to past successes they often become stumbling blocks, not stepping stones, to greater achievement and joy. Unconsciously your fists can be clenched on something with a vice grip, when something much greater is within your grasp. It’s like trying to steal second base with one foot on first. When you truly believe you don’t hesitate, you go for it. I overcame this weakness by letting go a little at a time until I lost my fear of failure and ridicule. Keep in mind that small triumphs give you the courage and momentum to take on big challenges.
Then I had two powerful cards which made my hand exciting. The first was a never say die attitude. Watching Tiger Woods has inspired me to the highest degree. He can be having the worst golf round of his life, yet he continues to give a thousand percent because he has total belief in what the Creator has given him. He knows that if he just hangs in there, regardless of how badly things are going, oftentimes the competition will fade away and he'll be the last man standing. You may never be the most talented, but you can always be the toughest mentally—and I'd take toughness over talent any day. Simply put, you have to be “crazy enough” to believe when everyone else thinks you’re a fool. When times get tough for you, just think about the consequences if you cave in and give up. Death seems like a better option than quitting. You have to fight to the bitter end.
My other power card was the ability to develop my skill set and use it to my best advantage. Everyone on earth has god given skill or a natural inclination in some area. If you’re always searching for a way to succeed, you’ll eventually find out what your natural abilities are. Then all you have to do is find a way to use them in a positive fashion. One day I found out I could write, which is a great asset. I also found out that I could do television, radio and public speaking. Some people have many talents, some have only a few, but regardless of how many talents, skills or natural abilities you possess, develop them to the highest level possible. If you're able to do so, watch out—your life may take off.
Then there was my hole card, the most powerful one. I’ve always been able to network and develop relationships, which is and will always be my saving grace. If all else fails, that I can do. What quality do you have that won’t let you down? For me the quality of my relationships will determine exactly how far I’ll go in this world, whether it’s professionally or personally. If you have good karma and sincerity you may be shocked, amazed and delighted by some of the things a casual acquaintance may do for you. If you carry with you an aura of compassion, success and knowledge, people are drawn to you and doors open for you. Also, people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care, so you must be genuinely interested in what makes other people tick. They say there are six degrees of separation but, when you are able to network effectively, there are only about two or three.
Your mission, should you chose to accept it, is to evaluate your own hand. You may have five great cards or five poor ones. Whatever you have, you have to play to win. But there is one other thing that’s more important than all the strengths and weaknesses you possess. How’s your poker face? Are you able to stare in the face of adversity and not blink. The best poker players oftentimes have the weakest hands because they don't blink. Have you ever wondered why someone with no advantages at all could succeed at the highest level? Some are born dirt poor, no mother, no father, no education, unhealthy—yet they still find a way to succeed. They have great poker faces and they know how to play the hands they’re dealt.
Staring at my five cards, I evaluated the strengths and weaknesses of my hand. I had to make the daring decision of whether to stay in the game or take my losses and bail out. How I wished I could throw away my weak cards and pick up a couple of aces. Five Card Stud is a tough poker game and I had no choice—I had to play the hand I was dealt.
Then, suddenly, after the game was done and I suffered heavy losses, I was struck by a flash. With crystal clear acuity I could visualize my own personal strengths and weaknesses, just like I could see the strengths and weaknesses in my poker hand. It was as if my entire life was sprinting through my mind at warp speed and all of my triumphs and failures were put on display for harsh and bitter critique. My personality traits that lead to those triumphs and failures were like the cards in my hand—good, bad and ugly—and sadly there was more ugly to report than anything else. It was no wonder I suffered through so much frustration. I had a weak hand—or better yet, a weak attitude.
Two of my "personality" cards were extremely weak. At the top of the hit list was disorganization, which fed directly into the chaos in my life. It became crystal clear that I had to get organized to operate efficiently, there was no other choice. But, my stinkin' thinkin' was that since I was born disorganized I was cursed forever. I figured I may never be able to break free from the throes of it. Then I thought why try to overcome it? I’ll never be perfect. My solution was to work through it by doing one clever thing: simply put a mechanism in place to guide me in the right direction and keep me focused. By doing that all I had to do was be disciplined enough to maintain the mechanism. It was really just a different way to frame the problem and solve it. You don't have to overcome all of your shortcomings, you just have to know how to work around them.
My other weak card was lack of total belief. This became blindingly obvious because I always worried. I was never able to relax. I also lacked the courage to let go of certain security blankets which weighed me down, thwarting many of my efforts and deteriorating much energy to go after the bigger fish. A friend once told me don’t let the little money get in the way of the big money. Sometimes you have to let go, take the dare and let the spirit be your guiding light. And also, if you cling to past successes they often become stumbling blocks, not stepping stones, to greater achievement and joy. Unconsciously your fists can be clenched on something with a vice grip, when something much greater is within your grasp. It’s like trying to steal second base with one foot on first. When you truly believe you don’t hesitate, you go for it. I overcame this weakness by letting go a little at a time until I lost my fear of failure and ridicule. Keep in mind that small triumphs give you the courage and momentum to take on big challenges.
Then I had two powerful cards which made my hand exciting. The first was a never say die attitude. Watching Tiger Woods has inspired me to the highest degree. He can be having the worst golf round of his life, yet he continues to give a thousand percent because he has total belief in what the Creator has given him. He knows that if he just hangs in there, regardless of how badly things are going, oftentimes the competition will fade away and he'll be the last man standing. You may never be the most talented, but you can always be the toughest mentally—and I'd take toughness over talent any day. Simply put, you have to be “crazy enough” to believe when everyone else thinks you’re a fool. When times get tough for you, just think about the consequences if you cave in and give up. Death seems like a better option than quitting. You have to fight to the bitter end.
My other power card was the ability to develop my skill set and use it to my best advantage. Everyone on earth has god given skill or a natural inclination in some area. If you’re always searching for a way to succeed, you’ll eventually find out what your natural abilities are. Then all you have to do is find a way to use them in a positive fashion. One day I found out I could write, which is a great asset. I also found out that I could do television, radio and public speaking. Some people have many talents, some have only a few, but regardless of how many talents, skills or natural abilities you possess, develop them to the highest level possible. If you're able to do so, watch out—your life may take off.
Then there was my hole card, the most powerful one. I’ve always been able to network and develop relationships, which is and will always be my saving grace. If all else fails, that I can do. What quality do you have that won’t let you down? For me the quality of my relationships will determine exactly how far I’ll go in this world, whether it’s professionally or personally. If you have good karma and sincerity you may be shocked, amazed and delighted by some of the things a casual acquaintance may do for you. If you carry with you an aura of compassion, success and knowledge, people are drawn to you and doors open for you. Also, people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care, so you must be genuinely interested in what makes other people tick. They say there are six degrees of separation but, when you are able to network effectively, there are only about two or three.
Your mission, should you chose to accept it, is to evaluate your own hand. You may have five great cards or five poor ones. Whatever you have, you have to play to win. But there is one other thing that’s more important than all the strengths and weaknesses you possess. How’s your poker face? Are you able to stare in the face of adversity and not blink. The best poker players oftentimes have the weakest hands because they don't blink. Have you ever wondered why someone with no advantages at all could succeed at the highest level? Some are born dirt poor, no mother, no father, no education, unhealthy—yet they still find a way to succeed. They have great poker faces and they know how to play the hands they’re dealt.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2004. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Monday, April 6, 2009
The Great Blackout
Standing on the subway platform in Manhattan waiting to catch the #1 train from 50th to Penn Station for a meeting the lights flickered a few times and came back on. I said to the gentleman I was with, “It’ll be alright, we’ll get there on time.” He said, “I think not. Are you a fool? There’s a snowball’s chance in hell that I’m getting on any subway. We’re going to have a blackout.” At that very instant all the lights went out and it was pitch black. That party was over, but another party was beginning—we were beset by the big, ugly, eight state blackout on August 14, 2003. If you lived through it, I know you remember it.
Anyway, we ran up the subway station stairs to daylight. I went back to my office, packed my stuff and tried to get back home to Joisey. I figured it’s a blackout, but luckily my wife has some candles...certainly we have some form of distilled or fermented liquid somewhere in the house...if I'm lucky chocolate and strawberries...so electricity or not, it will be an episode of How Kirk Got His Groove Back! But, for some wicked reason, I found myself peregrinating through the streets of Midtown Manhattan for the next hour or so like dog with no home. Then I bumped into a friend, Joe (name changed to protect the innocent), who was wondering around looking for a way to get home too—that was a major mistake. First of all, Joe was like, “Dude, I’ll call my driver and get him to take us to Jersey.” I’m thinkin', “Okay, dawg, you got it goin’ on’…you got a driver and I have a pair of worn out shoes and a subway metrocard…so what? Where is he?” Of course, his driver was MIA. Then we walked from 50th and Broadway to 34th & 7th, Penn Station, trying to get a train home—that wasn’t happenin'. The train station morphed into a third world country.
Finally Joe says I have an apartment back on 50th Street. We can walk back, crash there and get home in the morning. Finally something was making sense, but it took forever to get back to his apartment because he was wearing out—the walking was killing him and the snail’s pace was murdering me. So, here’s the first lesson—if you’re in a blackout in NYC and find yourself walking around like a vagabond, maybe 40 blocks or so, on your feet for 2, 3, 4 hours, you need to be in shape. I knew bruthas and sistas who walked from midtown up to Harlem U.S.A. and the Bronx. So, no excuses.
But now the escapade begins. We get to Joe’s highrise apartment building but, of course, his apartment is on the 43rd floor—and, oops, the elevator runs by electricity so it ain’t happenin’. So, let’s do the math—43 floors times 20 steps per floor—about 860 steps. No problem, I can knock that out and I’ll keep Joe motivated (another of my major errors in judgement that year). I had my computer bag and brief case, which over the last 3 hours and 40 or so blocks was kickin’ my butt. So, the second lesson—if you’re in a blackout in NYC and you have to carry something for a long distance, you need to be in shape.
The doorman was handing out candles to any fool inclined to tackle the ascent to any apartment above the second floor. We already know I’m a fool, but Joe—he must have been an ignoramus. Since he had only one smaller attaché case, he held the matches and candle to light the way. We get to the third floor and there was an older lady there taking a little break. She was cool, so we moved on. However, by the fifth floor Joe was moving considerably slower and he had to take a break. From there on, every other floor he had to stop and catch his breath. By the tenth floor, not only did I have to carry my two bags, but I had to carry Joe’s bag also. I’m thinkin’, dude, pump some iron, run some laps—you’re useless. By the fifteenth floor I was further chagrined because I had to also carry the candle! So, think about it for a second—not only do I have to get my black butt up 28 more flights of stairs, I’m carrying three bags which are breaking my back and a candle with hot wax dripping on my hand. I was almost ready to go back down the stairs and sleep in the street—of course, after killing Joe. By the way, if you’ve ever seen any of those movies where it’s erotic to have hot candle wax dripping on you, get a life—I can’t roll like that—or maybe I’m just watchin’ the wrong kind of flicks—or maybe I’m watchin’ the right kind of flicks—I’m confused! Anyway…
By the twentieth floor Joe was really wearing down and looking pitiful, like he was going to pass out. He was obviously having a near-death experience. I said, “Dude, don’t even think about clutching your chest and having a heart attack because your timing is crap. If you’re not my wife, mother, grandmother, sister or a few other select, vetted and well screened relatives, odds are zero to none you’ll get mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. To even think it is absurd. Fuggedaboutit.” As Richard Pryor cautioned, “Death might ease on down my throat.” So, mouth-to-mouth was off the table, as well as carrying him back down the stairs to the hospital. He had to get with the program or make the ultimate sacrifice.
Anyway, by the grace of God, we stumbled and bumbled up to the 43rd floor. I don’t know how. I was dog tired and soaking wet from sweat, but I made it. Joe didn't have a heart attack, although it probably would have been less painful if he did. The saga was over. We ate a can of salted cashews for dinner, crashed, and hitch-hiked home in the morning. So, the third lesson—if you’re caught in a blackout in NYC and you have to walk up a lot of stairs, about 860, carrying heavy bags, with candle wax dripping on you, and you’re with someone who is having heart palpitations, you need to be in shape. Ain't no doubt about it.
Saying all that to say running 3.5 miles may not be on your agenda over the next decade or so, but if you’re caught in a blackout--I'm feelin' you! Therefore, get with the program and stay in shape! Do what ya gotta do.
Copyright © 2009 by Kirk Charles. Do not reproduce or distribute in any form, without prior written consent by Kirk Charles.
Anyway, we ran up the subway station stairs to daylight. I went back to my office, packed my stuff and tried to get back home to Joisey. I figured it’s a blackout, but luckily my wife has some candles...certainly we have some form of distilled or fermented liquid somewhere in the house...if I'm lucky chocolate and strawberries...so electricity or not, it will be an episode of How Kirk Got His Groove Back! But, for some wicked reason, I found myself peregrinating through the streets of Midtown Manhattan for the next hour or so like dog with no home. Then I bumped into a friend, Joe (name changed to protect the innocent), who was wondering around looking for a way to get home too—that was a major mistake. First of all, Joe was like, “Dude, I’ll call my driver and get him to take us to Jersey.” I’m thinkin', “Okay, dawg, you got it goin’ on’…you got a driver and I have a pair of worn out shoes and a subway metrocard…so what? Where is he?” Of course, his driver was MIA. Then we walked from 50th and Broadway to 34th & 7th, Penn Station, trying to get a train home—that wasn’t happenin'. The train station morphed into a third world country.
Finally Joe says I have an apartment back on 50th Street. We can walk back, crash there and get home in the morning. Finally something was making sense, but it took forever to get back to his apartment because he was wearing out—the walking was killing him and the snail’s pace was murdering me. So, here’s the first lesson—if you’re in a blackout in NYC and find yourself walking around like a vagabond, maybe 40 blocks or so, on your feet for 2, 3, 4 hours, you need to be in shape. I knew bruthas and sistas who walked from midtown up to Harlem U.S.A. and the Bronx. So, no excuses.
But now the escapade begins. We get to Joe’s highrise apartment building but, of course, his apartment is on the 43rd floor—and, oops, the elevator runs by electricity so it ain’t happenin’. So, let’s do the math—43 floors times 20 steps per floor—about 860 steps. No problem, I can knock that out and I’ll keep Joe motivated (another of my major errors in judgement that year). I had my computer bag and brief case, which over the last 3 hours and 40 or so blocks was kickin’ my butt. So, the second lesson—if you’re in a blackout in NYC and you have to carry something for a long distance, you need to be in shape.
The doorman was handing out candles to any fool inclined to tackle the ascent to any apartment above the second floor. We already know I’m a fool, but Joe—he must have been an ignoramus. Since he had only one smaller attaché case, he held the matches and candle to light the way. We get to the third floor and there was an older lady there taking a little break. She was cool, so we moved on. However, by the fifth floor Joe was moving considerably slower and he had to take a break. From there on, every other floor he had to stop and catch his breath. By the tenth floor, not only did I have to carry my two bags, but I had to carry Joe’s bag also. I’m thinkin’, dude, pump some iron, run some laps—you’re useless. By the fifteenth floor I was further chagrined because I had to also carry the candle! So, think about it for a second—not only do I have to get my black butt up 28 more flights of stairs, I’m carrying three bags which are breaking my back and a candle with hot wax dripping on my hand. I was almost ready to go back down the stairs and sleep in the street—of course, after killing Joe. By the way, if you’ve ever seen any of those movies where it’s erotic to have hot candle wax dripping on you, get a life—I can’t roll like that—or maybe I’m just watchin’ the wrong kind of flicks—or maybe I’m watchin’ the right kind of flicks—I’m confused! Anyway…
By the twentieth floor Joe was really wearing down and looking pitiful, like he was going to pass out. He was obviously having a near-death experience. I said, “Dude, don’t even think about clutching your chest and having a heart attack because your timing is crap. If you’re not my wife, mother, grandmother, sister or a few other select, vetted and well screened relatives, odds are zero to none you’ll get mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. To even think it is absurd. Fuggedaboutit.” As Richard Pryor cautioned, “Death might ease on down my throat.” So, mouth-to-mouth was off the table, as well as carrying him back down the stairs to the hospital. He had to get with the program or make the ultimate sacrifice.
Anyway, by the grace of God, we stumbled and bumbled up to the 43rd floor. I don’t know how. I was dog tired and soaking wet from sweat, but I made it. Joe didn't have a heart attack, although it probably would have been less painful if he did. The saga was over. We ate a can of salted cashews for dinner, crashed, and hitch-hiked home in the morning. So, the third lesson—if you’re caught in a blackout in NYC and you have to walk up a lot of stairs, about 860, carrying heavy bags, with candle wax dripping on you, and you’re with someone who is having heart palpitations, you need to be in shape. Ain't no doubt about it.
Saying all that to say running 3.5 miles may not be on your agenda over the next decade or so, but if you’re caught in a blackout--I'm feelin' you! Therefore, get with the program and stay in shape! Do what ya gotta do.
Copyright © 2009 by Kirk Charles. Do not reproduce or distribute in any form, without prior written consent by Kirk Charles.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Where are the Angels?
Have you ever wondered what an angel is? It's my belief that angels are really human beings committing random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty. I'm always amazed at some of the things that people do for me, sometimes without me even asking for it. There are some people out there who have an uncanny sixth sense where they can detect positive intentions and sincerity. I don't know how they do it, it just seems like they can peer into your soul. Those are the people who make you feel better just by being around them. Normally you don't even need to engage conversation with them, it's just a powerful and vibrant vibe that generates from them.
So what happens with me is that I'm hustling and bustling, attempting to take advantage of all that the Almighty has put before me. In the process I'm stumbling also, because I'm more like Clark Kent than Superman. At those moments when I stumble it seems like an angel always appears and does a good deed for me, asking for nothing in return. As usual, I end up thanking that person profusely because it's as if your life has been saved. But what's really interesting is that those types of people don't live for thank yous. What they really want is to see you "take it and run with it", which is whatever gift they have bestowed upon you, whatever door they opened for you, et cetera. They want to know their generosity has not been wasted and thrown into the trash. So, then it becomes my responsibility to step up to the plate and make sure that person is not disappointed. I gotta be a man and do the right thing.
Therefore, I have a challenge for you. Be an angel in someone's life! Be that emissary from the Almighty that brings joy or opportunity or education or elucidation to someone else in need, asking for nothing in return. Of course, your reward will certainly come, there's no doubt about it. Call it karma, call it paying it forward, call it whatever you want, it's all a part of the master plan. As a friend of mine would always say, "Dude, you gotta get with the program!"
So what happens with me is that I'm hustling and bustling, attempting to take advantage of all that the Almighty has put before me. In the process I'm stumbling also, because I'm more like Clark Kent than Superman. At those moments when I stumble it seems like an angel always appears and does a good deed for me, asking for nothing in return. As usual, I end up thanking that person profusely because it's as if your life has been saved. But what's really interesting is that those types of people don't live for thank yous. What they really want is to see you "take it and run with it", which is whatever gift they have bestowed upon you, whatever door they opened for you, et cetera. They want to know their generosity has not been wasted and thrown into the trash. So, then it becomes my responsibility to step up to the plate and make sure that person is not disappointed. I gotta be a man and do the right thing.
Therefore, I have a challenge for you. Be an angel in someone's life! Be that emissary from the Almighty that brings joy or opportunity or education or elucidation to someone else in need, asking for nothing in return. Of course, your reward will certainly come, there's no doubt about it. Call it karma, call it paying it forward, call it whatever you want, it's all a part of the master plan. As a friend of mine would always say, "Dude, you gotta get with the program!"
Saturday, February 14, 2009
The Hustler (published 2001)
Negotiating with one of my favorite clients years ago, with an intriguing smile, he said, "You know what Kirk, I really like you. You're a hustler. That's why I do business with you." All those years I wondered why I was so fortunate to do business with such a successful and honorable man. It never dawned on me that he considered me a hustler. He went on to say hustling was something he admired in the people he dealt with and it was a requirement of those who worked for him. He felt that hustling was what propelled him to success where others could not get out of the starting blocks. Then something popped into the forefront of my mind, a classic line from the movie Cocktail starring Tom Cruise. Cruise’s mentor sarcastically spewed out, "Workers never hustle and hustlers never work!" I was aware of hustling way back then, but didn’t truly understand what a magical quality it is. After hearing that line I surely didn’t want to work and hustling became my way of life.
When I was a kid I always thought I would accomplish great things. Most kids have great dreams, so that was nothing unusual. I thought I would be a basketball star, then a jazz musician. Then, while I was in college, I learned about the world of business and developed even more dreams. What happens to the average individual is that the dreams die, oftentimes replaced with attitudinal stagnation. He then becomes a worker, unable to see beyond his current circumstances. But, hustlers never let the dream die because they have extraordinary vision. They always seem to have big plans and they’re always willing to go for it, breaking away from the circumstances which hold the worker down. For those who refuse to let the dream fade away, hustling is just the natural order of life.
Workers get a 9-to-5 and sprint for the parking lot at 4:59. Hustlers who have a passion for their jobs and careers come in before 9 and stay after 5 because they can't be restricted to 40 hours a week. They know that taking advantage of opportunity and realizing dreams doesn't begin until after the 40th hour. Hustlers really don’t know what a 40-hour work week is, whether they work for a company or own their own business. They never experience it and don't give it much of a thought. Getting the job done is what’s important to them, regardless of how much time it takes. The worker gets paid for time while the hustler gets rewarded for accomplishment. Workers want to get off; hustlers want to get on.
Hustlers always have a knack of capitalizing on opportunity, while workers—who have the same opportunities—don't recognize them or are unwilling or too fearful to take advantage of them. This philosophy is embodied in the hustler’s bring it on attitude. Since hustlers are in relentless, high speed pursuit of their dreams, they are always ready to spring to action, willing to take on challenge after challenge, whenever and however it comes. Workers live an unchallenged life, just going through the motions to get through another day. But, in the hustler’s mind, those challenges represent stepping stones to their ultimate success.
Unfortunately most workers normally don’t enjoy what they do. And, if they’re lucky enough to enjoy it a little bit, they’re often complaining about how things could be better. But, keep in mind what the great Moms Mabley said: "Eighty percent of the people you complain to don’t care. The other twenty percent are glad it’s you and not them." To the contrary, hustlers love what they do! They’re thrilled by it! There’s no need to complain, plus they don’t have the time to complain anyway—they're too busy hustling. The exhilaration of making deals, signing contracts, accomplishing objectives, meeting interesting people—those are the things they live for and thrive by. Hustlers have passion and drive which is inextricably intertwined in all that they do.
Finally, the hustler is extremely patient, therefore he can hang in there when the worker fades away. The hustler knows that oftentimes success is a war of attrition and if he has the willpower and guts to simply hang in there, he may be the last man standing and win the day. Hustlers are mentally tough and can withstand the bumps and bruises that come along with their ascension to the top. They know success is right around the corner, even if they have to stagger to it after absorbing blow after blow. They’re willing to go through troubled waters because they want control of their destiny. Ultimately the hustler understands, no pain, no gain.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2001. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
When I was a kid I always thought I would accomplish great things. Most kids have great dreams, so that was nothing unusual. I thought I would be a basketball star, then a jazz musician. Then, while I was in college, I learned about the world of business and developed even more dreams. What happens to the average individual is that the dreams die, oftentimes replaced with attitudinal stagnation. He then becomes a worker, unable to see beyond his current circumstances. But, hustlers never let the dream die because they have extraordinary vision. They always seem to have big plans and they’re always willing to go for it, breaking away from the circumstances which hold the worker down. For those who refuse to let the dream fade away, hustling is just the natural order of life.
Workers get a 9-to-5 and sprint for the parking lot at 4:59. Hustlers who have a passion for their jobs and careers come in before 9 and stay after 5 because they can't be restricted to 40 hours a week. They know that taking advantage of opportunity and realizing dreams doesn't begin until after the 40th hour. Hustlers really don’t know what a 40-hour work week is, whether they work for a company or own their own business. They never experience it and don't give it much of a thought. Getting the job done is what’s important to them, regardless of how much time it takes. The worker gets paid for time while the hustler gets rewarded for accomplishment. Workers want to get off; hustlers want to get on.
Hustlers always have a knack of capitalizing on opportunity, while workers—who have the same opportunities—don't recognize them or are unwilling or too fearful to take advantage of them. This philosophy is embodied in the hustler’s bring it on attitude. Since hustlers are in relentless, high speed pursuit of their dreams, they are always ready to spring to action, willing to take on challenge after challenge, whenever and however it comes. Workers live an unchallenged life, just going through the motions to get through another day. But, in the hustler’s mind, those challenges represent stepping stones to their ultimate success.
Unfortunately most workers normally don’t enjoy what they do. And, if they’re lucky enough to enjoy it a little bit, they’re often complaining about how things could be better. But, keep in mind what the great Moms Mabley said: "Eighty percent of the people you complain to don’t care. The other twenty percent are glad it’s you and not them." To the contrary, hustlers love what they do! They’re thrilled by it! There’s no need to complain, plus they don’t have the time to complain anyway—they're too busy hustling. The exhilaration of making deals, signing contracts, accomplishing objectives, meeting interesting people—those are the things they live for and thrive by. Hustlers have passion and drive which is inextricably intertwined in all that they do.
Finally, the hustler is extremely patient, therefore he can hang in there when the worker fades away. The hustler knows that oftentimes success is a war of attrition and if he has the willpower and guts to simply hang in there, he may be the last man standing and win the day. Hustlers are mentally tough and can withstand the bumps and bruises that come along with their ascension to the top. They know success is right around the corner, even if they have to stagger to it after absorbing blow after blow. They’re willing to go through troubled waters because they want control of their destiny. Ultimately the hustler understands, no pain, no gain.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2001. Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
How Important Is Your Health???
Well, you're going to think I'm a little bizarre, but I gotta say this anyway. Since 1989, unless completely by accident, I haven't eaten anything bovine, swine, piscine or bird-like (oops...I don't know the "ine" word for fowl). Also, no milk, eggs or cheese. Sounds painful, I know, but once you get used to it it's pretty cool. VEGANISM is the way to go!
Because I know you care about your body, I want you to put your health before all other concerns. Somebody once said, "Treat your body like a temple!" Not an outhouse--a temple! Too many of use abuse the physical form the creator has bestowed upon us. We don't eat right, we don't exercise, we stress over mess--then we're chagrined when we start falling apart.
So, I have a challenge for you. For the next 30 days eschew beef, pork and fried food. And if you don't feel a lot better, call me a fool (and delete me from you list of friends on FaceBook). It's a sure bet that your body will welcome the relief from putrefactive flesh deteriorating your intestinal tract. In the holistic health professions there's a belief that all disease starts in the small intestine. I agree with that. If you eat a lot of crap you're going to feel like a lot of crap.
Also, during that 30 day time period, I want you to engage in some serious cardiovascular exercise at least every other day for 45 minutes. Do something that's going to make you sweat! Do something that you like! I play tennis at least four days a week, but you have to do what's good for you. Walk, run, swim, basketball... Unfortunately the only muscle many of use is the jaw muscle to chomp on that meat. Sorry, but I'm requesting that you get a full body workout.
Anyway, we've got to influence our health in a positive way and the only way to do that is to become proactive. Let's face it--we ain't gettin' any younger--but we can become better. If you want any tips on how to convert to veganism, give me a shout!
"Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos - the trees, the clouds, everything."--Thich Nhat Hanh
Because I know you care about your body, I want you to put your health before all other concerns. Somebody once said, "Treat your body like a temple!" Not an outhouse--a temple! Too many of use abuse the physical form the creator has bestowed upon us. We don't eat right, we don't exercise, we stress over mess--then we're chagrined when we start falling apart.
So, I have a challenge for you. For the next 30 days eschew beef, pork and fried food. And if you don't feel a lot better, call me a fool (and delete me from you list of friends on FaceBook). It's a sure bet that your body will welcome the relief from putrefactive flesh deteriorating your intestinal tract. In the holistic health professions there's a belief that all disease starts in the small intestine. I agree with that. If you eat a lot of crap you're going to feel like a lot of crap.
Also, during that 30 day time period, I want you to engage in some serious cardiovascular exercise at least every other day for 45 minutes. Do something that's going to make you sweat! Do something that you like! I play tennis at least four days a week, but you have to do what's good for you. Walk, run, swim, basketball... Unfortunately the only muscle many of use is the jaw muscle to chomp on that meat. Sorry, but I'm requesting that you get a full body workout.
Anyway, we've got to influence our health in a positive way and the only way to do that is to become proactive. Let's face it--we ain't gettin' any younger--but we can become better. If you want any tips on how to convert to veganism, give me a shout!
"Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos - the trees, the clouds, everything."--Thich Nhat Hanh
Monday, February 9, 2009
God +1 is Always the Majority
Thanks to all of you who opined regarding my CD project. I received some great pointers and tips which will make it a very powerful and insightful message...RESOLVE TO HAVE YOUR BEST YEAR EVER. I put up a newer version on YouTube for you to check out if you have the time at ... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cPL3oVsoXGI. Check it out and let me know what you think. Also, if you're not already on FaceBook, look me up and link in.
Last night I was struck by a message from above which has been transmitted to me before--but sometimes I'm to thick-headed to get it. As I was working at home I realized that there may be moments where you--and you alone--will be the only one who believes in what you're doing or attempting to accomplish. When this realization hits you, your faith is tested and tested and tested, seemingly ad nauseum. What I would normally say is don't be fearful, keep going, don't give up, persevere, resolve, quitters never win...you know what I mean. But, I think the more important thing to say is that God + 1 is always the majority. If you're fighting for something that benefits other people, where you also benefit--and seemingly everyone else is against you or doesn't believe in you--as long as you believe and have faith, the Almighty is on your side and that's the only crew you need to roll with!
One of my favorite persons in the good book is Job. He was mentally tough and pertinacious! Check him out and let me know what you think.
Do your thang...roll on...
Last night I was struck by a message from above which has been transmitted to me before--but sometimes I'm to thick-headed to get it. As I was working at home I realized that there may be moments where you--and you alone--will be the only one who believes in what you're doing or attempting to accomplish. When this realization hits you, your faith is tested and tested and tested, seemingly ad nauseum. What I would normally say is don't be fearful, keep going, don't give up, persevere, resolve, quitters never win...you know what I mean. But, I think the more important thing to say is that God + 1 is always the majority. If you're fighting for something that benefits other people, where you also benefit--and seemingly everyone else is against you or doesn't believe in you--as long as you believe and have faith, the Almighty is on your side and that's the only crew you need to roll with!
One of my favorite persons in the good book is Job. He was mentally tough and pertinacious! Check him out and let me know what you think.
Do your thang...roll on...
Saturday, February 7, 2009
RESOLVE TO HAVE YOUR BEST YEAR EVER - Preview
Check out the preview of my soon to be released CD RESOLVE TO HAVE YOUR BEST YEAR EVER on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5qBLDqzl8o.
Please let me know what you think.
"When you feel you're fighting against a more powerful foe, remember that Goliath forget he was playing around with David!" - Kirk Charles
Email me at kirkcharles@comcast.net or call 973-919-8065.
Please let me know what you think.
"When you feel you're fighting against a more powerful foe, remember that Goliath forget he was playing around with David!" - Kirk Charles
Email me at kirkcharles@comcast.net or call 973-919-8065.
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
RESOLUTION
(originally published in 1999)
Definition - a formal expression of opinion, will or intent
Redefinition - YOUR INSURANCE POLICY FOR SUCCESS, THE ART OF NEVER GIVING UP
Happy New Year!!! New Year's Day is my favorite holiday. Unlike all the other holidays, it's very essence engenders change, growth, evolution and maybe even revelation. Why? It's the first day of the year where we can start fresh and anew. Per annum we have yet another opportunity to leave our past behind and look forward to the future with heightened expectation instead of fearful apprehension.
How do we take advantage of this new beginning? By making resolutions which inspire us to higher heights. By decreeing that, from this day ad infinitum, a positive light will radiate upon us and emanate from us.
What is resolve?
RESOLVE means you've made promises to yourself with your Creator as a witness;
RESOLVE means that when the going gets tough, the tough don't go shopping, the tough become like teflon where no adversity or affliction sticks to you;
RESOLVE means you've shed your skin like a snake and the new you has emerged, merging with your own pre-determined destiny;
RESOLVE means you cannot go backward and you refuse to go downward; the route of progress, forward and upward, is the only possible and conceivable boulevard of progression;
RESOLVE means it is time to GO FOR IT; the spineless and gutless you must die in lieu of a powerful, inner drive and determination, capable of unleashing the lion's pride, the tiger's tenacity, the panther's prowess, the eagle's acuity and the owl's sagacity;
RESOLVE means you are ready to take on the arduous -- reciprocally rewarding -- task of self-improvement and self-enlightenment; and, of utmost importance,
RESOLVE means you've mastered the ART OF NEVER GIVING UP.
So, since we're at the beginning of the year, let us commence with the process of making resolutions. But, before we take the first step, let us destroy two crippling myths: 1) Making resolutions is a daunting task and 2) Carrying them out is painful. We all know people who refuse to make resolutions, bemoaning, "I don't make resolutions. I always break them, so why even make them." This is a clear sign of diffidence. By not resolving to improve one's lot in life one will ensure another lackluster year. Furthermore, adoption of a cynical philosophy is the stamp on a disposition of disdain and disgust with onself, due to inability to exercise self-discipline and live up to one's self-expectations. What this all boils down to is fear, a paralytic state of mind, which can destroy the spirit.
Therefore, to effectively begin making resolutions, a subtle, philosophical change may be necessary. Resolutions should not be one's nemesis lurking around the corner, just waiting for the opportunity for one to stumble. Resolutions should be thought of as ONE'S INSURANCE POLICY FOR SUCCESS. Look at it like this: if you pay your insurance dues monthly, weekly or, better yet, daily, how do you think you will fare in the ensuing years? Will you be in a more promising position than you are today? Probably so. Daily commitments and disciplines are the seedlings of resolution, there's no mistake about it. Commitment and discipline, commitment and discipline -- say it to yourself over and over. This type of positive affirmation can only help you set and maintain resolutions.
Now that we have the philosophical adjustment necessary to guarantee our success, I'll give you some sure fire keys to make resolutions:
Definition - a formal expression of opinion, will or intent
Redefinition - YOUR INSURANCE POLICY FOR SUCCESS, THE ART OF NEVER GIVING UP
Happy New Year!!! New Year's Day is my favorite holiday. Unlike all the other holidays, it's very essence engenders change, growth, evolution and maybe even revelation. Why? It's the first day of the year where we can start fresh and anew. Per annum we have yet another opportunity to leave our past behind and look forward to the future with heightened expectation instead of fearful apprehension.
How do we take advantage of this new beginning? By making resolutions which inspire us to higher heights. By decreeing that, from this day ad infinitum, a positive light will radiate upon us and emanate from us.
What is resolve?
RESOLVE means you've made promises to yourself with your Creator as a witness;
RESOLVE means that when the going gets tough, the tough don't go shopping, the tough become like teflon where no adversity or affliction sticks to you;
RESOLVE means you've shed your skin like a snake and the new you has emerged, merging with your own pre-determined destiny;
RESOLVE means you cannot go backward and you refuse to go downward; the route of progress, forward and upward, is the only possible and conceivable boulevard of progression;
RESOLVE means it is time to GO FOR IT; the spineless and gutless you must die in lieu of a powerful, inner drive and determination, capable of unleashing the lion's pride, the tiger's tenacity, the panther's prowess, the eagle's acuity and the owl's sagacity;
RESOLVE means you are ready to take on the arduous -- reciprocally rewarding -- task of self-improvement and self-enlightenment; and, of utmost importance,
RESOLVE means you've mastered the ART OF NEVER GIVING UP.
So, since we're at the beginning of the year, let us commence with the process of making resolutions. But, before we take the first step, let us destroy two crippling myths: 1) Making resolutions is a daunting task and 2) Carrying them out is painful. We all know people who refuse to make resolutions, bemoaning, "I don't make resolutions. I always break them, so why even make them." This is a clear sign of diffidence. By not resolving to improve one's lot in life one will ensure another lackluster year. Furthermore, adoption of a cynical philosophy is the stamp on a disposition of disdain and disgust with onself, due to inability to exercise self-discipline and live up to one's self-expectations. What this all boils down to is fear, a paralytic state of mind, which can destroy the spirit.
Therefore, to effectively begin making resolutions, a subtle, philosophical change may be necessary. Resolutions should not be one's nemesis lurking around the corner, just waiting for the opportunity for one to stumble. Resolutions should be thought of as ONE'S INSURANCE POLICY FOR SUCCESS. Look at it like this: if you pay your insurance dues monthly, weekly or, better yet, daily, how do you think you will fare in the ensuing years? Will you be in a more promising position than you are today? Probably so. Daily commitments and disciplines are the seedlings of resolution, there's no mistake about it. Commitment and discipline, commitment and discipline -- say it to yourself over and over. This type of positive affirmation can only help you set and maintain resolutions.
Now that we have the philosophical adjustment necessary to guarantee our success, I'll give you some sure fire keys to make resolutions:
- Don't bite off more than you can chew. It's easier to eat a steak when it's cut into little pieces.
- Don't be too easy on yourself. The only way to expand the possible is by going into the impossible. Stretch the limits of your possibility. It might amaze you to find out what you can do if you give it a try.
- Don't compare your resolutions with anyone else's resolutions. Everyone grows at a different rate. Remember the turtle beat the hare.
- Keep a diary of your progress. You must always be cognizant of your direction. It's easier to know where you're going when you know where you came from.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help. Everyone needs help from time to time. It's hard to succeed by yourself -- but it's easy to fail by yourself.
- Encourage someone else. When you help someone else you help yourself. The combined will of two people can have amazing force.
- If you break a resolution, don't get discouraged. Immediately jump back on the bandwagon. I've known many alcoholics who have fallen off the bandwagon and successfully climbed back on and stayed on. The worst thing you can do is grovel in the dirt, mired in self-pity and diffidence.
With these seven keys in mind, YOUR INSURANCE POLICY FOR SUCCESS will mature at an accelerated rate. If you resolve you will rise above.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 1999
Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Are You in the Top 5%?
Thinking about the thousands of people I've met over the last 20 years, there were some people who seemed destined for failure. I'd say about 5%, even if they were born with silver spoons in their mouths and had every advantage possible. Then there is a larger percentage of people, I'd say about 90%, who will go whichever way the wind blows. If there are negative influences in their lives, they'll do negative things. If there are positive influences in their lives, they'll do extraordinary things. It seems as though they need to be lead in the right direction. Then there is the top 5%. Five percent of the people are destined for greatness. For some reason they always seem to land on their feet. They can be born in a ghetto, with no parents, with no education, no hope, and they always seem to find a way to make it. They are the cream of the crop.
Because you're reading this article, I know you're in the top 5%. You don't need motivation, nor do you need inspiration. You don't need someone to tell you how to feel, what to think and what to do. You don't need anyone to support you or look out for you. Deep down inside you have been imbued with fire and passion which can never be extinguished. The odds may have been in your favor or they may have been against you at birth, but for some reason it really doesn't matter because you don't care about the odds. All you really care about is identifying opportunity and taking advantage of it.
The reality is, regardless of your lot in life, opportunity will always present itself. In the wake of total devastation there is some form of opportunity. Because you are in the top 5% you know opportunity is there...you can sense it and smell it. Those who are in the bottom 5% cannot see it, feel it or sense it because they're sure it isn't there. Those in the larger 90% often have to be shown opportunity is there because it may be hidden. But you, in the top 5%, understand how to create your own opportunity, even when it doesn't exist.
There was a gentleman by the name of Reginald Lewis who unfortunately passed away in 1993. When he was in college he was involved in a program designed to educate young black men about going to law school. However the program was set up so those same young black man would not be able to attend law school, they would just learn about it. Reginald Lewis, because he was in the top 5%, found a way to go through the program and go to law school, which was unheard of. He sensed opportunity and he took advantage of it. All he did was ask when no one else could see that simply asking was the solution. He found a way to get what he wanted. He had an uncanny ability to identify opportunities and take advantage of them and he was eventually able to buy a company worth close to a billion dollars.
The most important part of being in the top 5% is understanding you're in the top 5%. You've got to believe it. Your mind and your spirit has to be there before anything positive happens to you. Another important aspect of being in the top 5% is patience. Believe it or not, patience is a virtue. Being in the top 5% doesn't mean you will always succeed in everything you do. It may even mean you're a massive failure at the moment. It may mean that you are ridiculed for being a dreamer. It may mean that you are flat broke, with not even a dollar in your pocket. But none of that matters as long as you know eventually you will succeed because you can see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Because you're in the top 5% you know that failure is only temporary. Those who are in the bottom 5% always let temporary failure become permanent disaster. Those who are in the greater 90% may fight through failure or get knocked out by it...it can go either way. But those in the top 5% only see it as a stepping stone to success.
So now that it is crystal clear you are in the top 5%, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to waste your God-given ability or will you take advantage it? Now is the most opportunity laden time in American history. The world is your oyster. However, there is just one other thing. Don't be afraid of opportunity and let it slip through your fingers. Even the best of us can be caught in a vicious cycle of laziness, procrastination, disbelief and blame. Then, when opportunity presents itself, we're too blinded to take advantage of it. Always keep in mind you are in the top 5%, so act like it. Be the winner that you are and never look back.
Because you're reading this article, I know you're in the top 5%. You don't need motivation, nor do you need inspiration. You don't need someone to tell you how to feel, what to think and what to do. You don't need anyone to support you or look out for you. Deep down inside you have been imbued with fire and passion which can never be extinguished. The odds may have been in your favor or they may have been against you at birth, but for some reason it really doesn't matter because you don't care about the odds. All you really care about is identifying opportunity and taking advantage of it.
The reality is, regardless of your lot in life, opportunity will always present itself. In the wake of total devastation there is some form of opportunity. Because you are in the top 5% you know opportunity is there...you can sense it and smell it. Those who are in the bottom 5% cannot see it, feel it or sense it because they're sure it isn't there. Those in the larger 90% often have to be shown opportunity is there because it may be hidden. But you, in the top 5%, understand how to create your own opportunity, even when it doesn't exist.
There was a gentleman by the name of Reginald Lewis who unfortunately passed away in 1993. When he was in college he was involved in a program designed to educate young black men about going to law school. However the program was set up so those same young black man would not be able to attend law school, they would just learn about it. Reginald Lewis, because he was in the top 5%, found a way to go through the program and go to law school, which was unheard of. He sensed opportunity and he took advantage of it. All he did was ask when no one else could see that simply asking was the solution. He found a way to get what he wanted. He had an uncanny ability to identify opportunities and take advantage of them and he was eventually able to buy a company worth close to a billion dollars.
The most important part of being in the top 5% is understanding you're in the top 5%. You've got to believe it. Your mind and your spirit has to be there before anything positive happens to you. Another important aspect of being in the top 5% is patience. Believe it or not, patience is a virtue. Being in the top 5% doesn't mean you will always succeed in everything you do. It may even mean you're a massive failure at the moment. It may mean that you are ridiculed for being a dreamer. It may mean that you are flat broke, with not even a dollar in your pocket. But none of that matters as long as you know eventually you will succeed because you can see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Because you're in the top 5% you know that failure is only temporary. Those who are in the bottom 5% always let temporary failure become permanent disaster. Those who are in the greater 90% may fight through failure or get knocked out by it...it can go either way. But those in the top 5% only see it as a stepping stone to success.
So now that it is crystal clear you are in the top 5%, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to waste your God-given ability or will you take advantage it? Now is the most opportunity laden time in American history. The world is your oyster. However, there is just one other thing. Don't be afraid of opportunity and let it slip through your fingers. Even the best of us can be caught in a vicious cycle of laziness, procrastination, disbelief and blame. Then, when opportunity presents itself, we're too blinded to take advantage of it. Always keep in mind you are in the top 5%, so act like it. Be the winner that you are and never look back.
Copyright by Kirk Charles, 2008
Redistribution or reprinting of any kind, in any type of media, without the prior written authorization of Kirk Charles is strictly prohibited.
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